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Friday, 20 December 2013

Childhood : Now and Then

by : Nurshahirah binti Azman

Do you still remember that one moment during your childhood where you went outside, and played with your fellow friends? That one time where technology isn’t a synonym to leisure times, instead it is all about going outside and enjoy the fun being with your friends, playing no matter if it was hot under the sun or it was drizzling. The time when your mother would run after you with a stick in her hand just to get you home because you just do not want to stop playing with your friends yet.



 
     Playing cook with all the unused cooking utensils on the ground is something so popular among kids during that time. Also, even with our own slippers we can play hitting the can with slippers, or even playing the ‘baling selipar’ where you’ll throw a slipper onto the built slippers and then catch the opponent. Or even jumping the rope made of elastic bands, playing hide and seek, home-made kite-flying, ‘lompat tikus’ and ‘galah panjang’ where you’ll need to pass different kinds of level to win the game, and many more. Aren’t all of this call back all those memories of your childhood and made you feel like you have had the best childhood memory ever?


                That was the time where we all have no single idea about computer games, let alone those gadgets that are totally popular nowadays and had replaced mostly all of these exciting games that we played when we were little back then. It is quite  sad thing to know that kids nowadays rarely go out to play like how we did before. With the advancement in technology, the gadgets like hand-phone, tablets and laptops are increasing in number and usage. Don’t be surprised if you find 5 months old baby is able to unlock a tablet screen and knows where to tap on the game application.


                Kids nowadays rarely go out of the house and mingle with friends in a real social life. Instead, they are ‘trapped’ inside the house, and just ‘link’ themselves with the outside world through the internet, via the social networking sites. Most of their leisure times are spent on playing games on their gadgets. That is one of the reasons on why these kids became clueless when they’re asked on what kind of real games they play with their friends outside the house. Ask them about any of those childhood games we played, most of them have no idea on what are those games about.



                The rapid advancement in technology is admitted to be something that we are proud of, it symbolizes the modernized community that we are living in. However, if this kind of lifestyle is to be introduced to every single children, these kids will never know what’s the real excitement in being children where you’re supposed to go out and adventure the world, mix around with friends and explore new things before you figure out how challenging being a grown-up is. At this point, parents and the society hold the biggest responsibility to change this kind of childhood lifestyle before it affects the younger generation.

..because we can't let their childhood to be like this, or even worse in the future..

Sunday, 8 December 2013

Culture Shock: University Life

Hi guys. I am called to write about something that pertaining us. Culture shock; is something that everyone will experience once in a while. I'd done an interview in a favor for a friend couple nights before who asked me what is culture shock. 



In a high definition form of culture shock, a formal definition. 
According to Meriam Dictionary, it is a 
a sense of confusion and uncertainty sometimes with feelings of anxiety that may affect people exposed to an alien culture or environment without adequate preparation

That is a formal definition. Well, my version of culture shock (speaking from experience) will be 
A state where someone meets new culture and have difficulty adjusting to it. And at the end of the day, they change and adapts into it.

Culture shock is not a medical condition, it is not a disease. But it is common especially when you move into a new place, where you have to meet the whole i-get-to-know-you process. It can be exciting but it is also can be overwhelming. Speaking in our own context, university life that is; I believe that we all kind of have the same problem.

University life can be demanding. I bet all of you have the same idea as I do. No more uptight schedule, no more prep (for boarding school student), no more uniform (yeay), and no more bestfriends from school :"(

Everything changes, you got to meet new people and most importantly the new environment that you are in now will it affect you or not. 

I met some people from my past back in my Uni's life. Well, they changed a bit. The change in appearance is common. Everything hips is swag right? (kudo to shady's group) But if you change because of someone, or just to feel accepted...You might want to ask yourself was it worth it? So, point number one of culture shock in university life. FRIENDS


We all get it, you want to be accepted. All of us want  to feel as if we are part of something special. Getting attached with new friends is amazing. It is different. Friends you have met during your school days seem to be long forgotten. You have your new friends, alas you forget everything. DON'T do that. Remember who you are. I'd love to quote my old favourite song. Seems legit eh?


Avoid horrible influence, get in touch with the good one.
If your friends lead you to the right path, then there is he or she is the keeper.
But if they lead you astray...you know what to do..

Point number two, LEARNING ENVIRONMENT

If you are saying learning environment in school and university is the same.
THINK AGAIN.



The gap between the difference of learning environment in university and school is so long. *insertjokehere. If back in school, we struggled a lot in our homeworks, buku latihan, rampaian, buku kira-kira, buku graf, buku nota.. But in university.. what do we do?



Haha, it is a lot to adapt eh for the new students in university. Another thing is to get used to the hectic life of university. Especially for us with all of the Hps' and college programme which requires endless meeting, datelines and you  have to catch up with your group work programme. If you used to only sleep and date with your book, you have a MEETING to add to your misery. Commitment is another thing right guys?
I guess we all just have to embrace everything. *sigh




So do you know whether you have a culture shock or not?
These are a few symptoms although some people experience or dealing it differently
  • not wanting to be around people who are different from you
  • sadness
  • loneliness
  • anxiety
  • trouble concentrating
  • feeling left out or misunderstood
  • developing negative and simplistic views of the new culture
  • frustration
  • extreme homesickness
STAGES OF CULTURE SHOCK


ExcitementWhen you first arrive, you are excited and interested in discovering new things
ConfusionThen you start to focus on the differences and feel confused, homesick, frustrated or depressed. You avoid spending time with people
ResentmentYou then start to resent the different culture and perhaps feel hostile, defensive or vulnerable
CopingEventually, you feel more relaxed and less dependent on others. You may start to appreciate the new culture
BelongingFinally, you feel a sense of belonging and confidence. You enjoy both your new and home cultures


How to deal?

  • Remember that your reactions are normal
  • Stay in contact with your family and friends
  • Join a student or community group
  • Join a study group
  • Contact your department to find a tutor
  • Talk to your advisers and lecturers about problems studying

There are lots of form of culture shock. But this is all that i can write in such short time.
I hope you enjoy reading it and I leave you a quote to ponder.
Whatever you do, if you set your motivation and for us Muslim, betulkan niat anda
Then you will get there. 






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